For the past two or three years, I have been facing the inevitable. All three of my older sisters have had hip replacements on their right hips for degenerative arthritis when they were approximately my age. Now it was my turn. But in my case, metal sensitivities made getting a hip replacement a more challenging problem. For over two years I searched in the US, the UK, and Europe for an orthopedic surgeon who could both relieve the rapidly growing pain in my right hip, as well as accommodate my sensitivities to the metals found in alloys used in hip … Continue reading
Category Archives: Memoir
Once upon a time, long long ago—in the 1980s—two children were born—Danielle Zuralow in northern Virginia in 1986 and Barrett Dwyer in northern New Mexico in 1989. These two children had no idea that they were destined to meet, fall in love, and eventually get married. Danielle in the early years Barrett in the early years Fast Forward to April 2012 The two children, now grown up, first met by a chance encounter. In April of 2012, Danni had a birthday party that took place in a popular bar in Washington, DC. The owner had offered to close the … Continue reading
Soon after arriving at my parents’ home, Marshall Tome came to visit me. He had planned on staying one week. My parents liked him immediately and treated him with warmth. Nevertheless, after two days in New England, he was ready to go home to the reservation. I could sense his discomfort. I asked him privately why he wanted to leave early. His short response spoke volumes. “The sky is too small here.” I knew exactly what he meant. The sky was too small for me too. I drove Marshall to the airport in Boston. We hugged each other at the … Continue reading
I’m sitting on the ground with my legs stretched out and my back against a warm rock, talking to you on the tape recorder. The sun is about to set right behind me. I’m by myself. It’s quiet and peaceful. I have some thoughts and feelings I want to share with you. I’ve been out here herding sheep all summer with lots of solitude and time to think about life while I’m riding around on Jimmy’s back. I could stay in Red Rock forever, marry Marshall, and become a certified member of the Navajo Tribe—and hope you all would come … Continue reading
I’m herding the sheep right now while I’m talking in the tape recorder. There’s lots of time out here in Red Rock to think about life. I am learning a lot about the Navajo way of being, acting, and thinking. Many things are becoming clearer to me, things that I just couldn’t understand in the beginning. When I first came to the reservation I had a simplistic view that there was no basic difference between Navajos and Anglos. After all, we both are humans struggling for survival on this earth. We both need food and shelter and human companionship. After … Continue reading
Hello again. Today is August 4th. I have been here two months now. I am alone in the cabin. The only time I talk into the tape recorder is when I am alone. I would never do it when Grandmother was around. One time I took her picture with my Instamatic camera. Since then, she puts her hands over her face when she sees me with the camera or she turns and walks in another direction. Lee Tome doesn’t seem to mind at all when I ask if I can take his picture. He’s used to being in public and … Continue reading
I’m back again. That’s the wind you hear in the background on the cassette tape. The wind blows very hard out here. Sometimes the dust is so ferocious from being whipped around by the wind that you can’t see even a yard in front of you. The blowing dust would be worse now, except that this year we had heavy rains during the spring. New growth of vegetation keeps down the loose dirt. The wind just now blew an empty pail off the box in front of me. I’m going to sign off here until the wind dies down. A … Continue reading
Life was rugged in Red Rock. We got up at five in the morning with the first light. Virginia Tome told me that if the sun caught a person in bed, that was a sign of laziness. She was strict and critical, but a good teacher of the Navajo Way. When no one was around, I talked into my little portable tape recorder, describing my day-to-day life as a sheepherder. “Today is July 4th, Independence Day. Right now I’m by myself in the log cabin. Lee Tome and Morris have gone to Shiprock to get their pickup fixed. Virginia Tome … Continue reading
I first met Marshall Tome when he came to the Chinle Boarding School to interview some of the staff for a story he wanted to write for the Navajo Times, one of the few independent native newspapers in the country. Marshall spoke English flawlessly, without a trace of the Navajo accent that I had grown accustomed to hearing among my students and my friends—an accent that had crept into my own speech unintentionally. After the interview, Marshall said that he wanted to get together and talk some more. He asked for my telephone number. He was not shy. Marshall pursued me … Continue reading
Being a young, single woman required a certain amount of caution on my part. Men sometimes interpreted my friendliness as an invitation for sex. All too frequently someone would knock on my door in the dead of night. One of those times, a drunken man came to my front door and yelled, “I know you are in there. Let me in.” He pounded furiously. I held my breath, hoping that I had remembered to lock the door before I went to bed. After a few minutes, the yelling stopped and silence returned. Just as I started to relax again, I … Continue reading